Loving what is left over with your husband | Valentines Day as parents | Marriage thoughts

I’ve talked about the importance of having one on one time with your kids, but there is another you need to remember in the equation; your husband (i.e. Significant other, whatever the title may be). As Valentines Day is next week, I felt like this was an appropriate subject for this Friday’s blog post! I am definitely one that forgets to give time and attention to my third child ( 😉 my husband) Being a mother; a stay at home mother, with the kids all day can get trying and by the end of it I just want to shut myself off from the world, but after the kids go to sleep there is still one other human that wishes to spend time with me as well. Don’t get me wrong, we both enjoy just doing our own thing and having time to ourselves; which I strongly encourage in all relationships, but it’s also important to make a point to have a select hour or two that is just us so we can catch up on what’s going on at work or just sit in silence and veg out to a mutually liked show. Just being in the same room, alone with my husband, not even needing to say anything, gives me reassurance that we are ok and being still, quiet, and alone is true intimacy to me. I came across a quote posted by a dear friend of mine to me a couple years ago on one of those memory apps; She quoted the movie Captain Corelli’s Mandolin;

“ When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because that is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No…don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn’t sound very exciting, does it? But it is!”

 

I immediately took a screenshot of this memory and read over it a handful of times, as if I was studying for a rigorous exam. This quote spoke to me. It is true; the relationship we have with someone at the beginning is so easy and fun and exuding with heat that we often mistake it for the magic of love, it is not until we have seasoned with this person, when most of the flame has settled, that we truly see what is there. Like I said, the moments I am just sitting in the same room as my husband I can tell; I can feel the love. And yes, it may seem dull and old age-y but to me it is everything, it is the trueness of us. Think about it, how many people can you sit with in a room and talk for hours and also do the complete opposite and sit in silence and just be with each other? It is a rare find to be able to do both with the same person, and often that person comes in the form of your husband. That person is truly something special, and they deserve your time this valentines Day. So whether you go sit at a restaurant and gab about the good old days, and life in general until sunrise or choose to stay home in bed, after the kids go to sleep, with a pint of ice cream to split between the two of you, celebrate finding your love, developing an intimacy that no one considered, and loving what is “left over.”

 

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