One of the things I love and hate about my husband is his constant tendency to make light of everything. It is nice whenever I am stressed out or in awkward moments to defuse the situation but the instances in which I need real listening and advice or the situation is just not a funny one that we can giggle through make me want to wring his neck. I have been torn between these love/hate feelings about this characteristic of his since we met 6 plus years ago. While thinking, about it and before even opening my mouth to tell him some real situation, I feel like slapping my hands together and looking at him straight in the eye and yelling “hocus pocus! Time to focus,” as if he was a school child in need of a teachers discipline. Which let’s face it, sometimes he is. But getting past my rant on my way to the real purpose of this blog…we live in a world filled with hate, fear, and disappointments but what a lot of people don’t choose to focus on are the love, support, family, and hopefulness of the world. I agree that it’s hard to avoid some of the major crisis’ and pitfalls in the world but making sure you are regulating how much you focus on them or let them get to you will effect how happy you’re with your children. Children have a sixth sense, if you will, about the mental state or general happiness of their parents. Some may say that you can just fake a sense of happiness in front of your children but, I believe, they always know the truth. Allow yourself, as a parent, to actually be this happy person, take things lightly, don’t scream and take it out on them because of your bad day. Kids take time to catch on to things and our expectations are sometimes greatly higher than what they can actually accomplish at their age, or even what society expects of them. Holding on to humor and hopefulness in the world will ultimately show your kids that being lighthearted and loving with a sense of humor will get you farther than being anxiety ridden and angry. Realizing that not everything is a personal insult towards you will provide you with a calm head and lift you to see that most everything has some humor in it. “You can either laugh about it or cry about,” is my husbands most overused saying, and while I usually lean towards the latter option, I know that to be present and help my children become happy and light hearted individuals I have to laugh about it. Focusing on the laughter and happiness is key. You’ve heard before that laughter is the best medicine and I would agree, my husband has taught me that. I still get caught up in the chaos of life and fall into anxious patterns but I have become so much better in the last six years that I feel like a more balanced individual and I can only pray that my daughters will take after their father, no matter the madness it will cause me when everyone refuses to have a serious conversation. Teaching them the balance of the two is my job, and I know I certainly have my hands full since they already take after their father. Hopefully I remember to laugh my way through the task.